We think of a person with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) as egotistical, selfish, self-serving, vain, power tripping, out for him or herself, not empathetic or caring about others, is grandiose, jealous of others, competitive with others, and requiring a lot of admiration and attention. These characteristics can show in a variety of ways such as:
• Passive aggressive manipulation
• Blaming others
• Avoidance of responsibility
• Perception that they are untouchable and that their actions are always infallible or a gift to others
• The need to be validated or reinforced in their perception of their own value
Long term psychotherapy is critical in helping a narcissist, but it is difficult for a narcissist to be convinced that they need help or that their behaviors need to change. Usually, a narcissist does not feel pain for their actions―the people around them do.
Did you also know that there is a sub-type of narcissistic behaviors called “closet narcissism?” These individuals appear to be “saintly” but actually use that behavior to cover narcissistic behaviors.
Dr. Anne Filosa Creekmore specializes in assisting those dealing with a loved one or associate who is narcissistic. Her research and work has led her to develop methods of communicating effectively with individuals with narcissistic tendancies. Whether you are dealing with a work relationship or loved one, Dr. Creekmore’s methods can help you to successfully deal with the challenges.
“To communicate with a narcissist, mentally reverse all the pronouns he uses and respond to your translation. If he says , ‘I,’ he’s referring to ‘you.’ If he says ‘you,’ he’s actually speaking about himself. The closet narcissist appear to be emphathic, feigning sympathy or other emotions, but really feels nothing. He’ll do whatever it takes to make himself look good. Without an authentic sense of self, he’s incapable of displaying real emotions. He has no inner experience to draw from.
“Narcissists aren’t unhappy; the people around them are when neglected or abused. So, if you’re involved with a narcissist, Narcissist-Speak (Narcissus Speak) is a wonderful way to respond―to communicate without frustration, to set boundaries, and to avoid being wounded time and time again.” From Love Yourself―Love Your Life pp 135-136. Dr. Creekmore’s specialized therapeutic skills help those who live with a loved one or deal with a coworker who is narcissistic to communicate effectively, without losing their own sense of self. Anne’s development of Narcissist-Speak empowers you to communicate without frustration, to set boundaries, and to avoid being wounded time and time again. With Anne’s help, her clients are able to understand the challenges they face in loving a narcissist or being a narcissist.
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Call Dr. Anne Filosa Creekmore, Psy. D. in Richmond, Virginia (VA) to begin to communicate effectively and strengthen your relationships, or purchase Love Yourself―Love Your Life to learn more about Narcissus-Speak today!